Suburban Goddess

Is separation a way to deal with a problem in your marriage? I mean, if you don’t fight, & nobody’s cheated, and you’re just generally stuck in a rut, is putting some distance between you an answer, or a cop out?

I’ve always been of the mind that separation is just a running start for divorce; I’ve never seen it end happily and good things generally don’t happen while you’re “on a break.” But when both sides have shut down with no where to go, maybe it has it’s place. I don’t know anymore. To me, it’s always been used as a tool to say, “I don’t love you anymore but I’m too chicken to be the bad guy.” So people separate. Then they divorce. Unless they just skip the separating all together & climb in bed with an 18 year old. I think that scenario is actually easier for me to deal with. At least you know where you stand.

I’ve been wrong about so much in my life; I can only pray that I’m wrong about this. But the fact is, I really don’t have a choice in the matter. The decision has been made for me, and I have to find a way to handle it that won’t set me back. I’ve come so far in such a short amount of time, and I’m not about to fall back into a pit of negativity. I can’t. Not for my sake, & definately not for the sake of my daughter.

It’s times like these that you find a God that you forgot existed.

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