Oops, I Did It Again
I really, really, REALLY go out of my way not to lead people on. But I hate to hurt people’s feelings, so I will endure the most painful of conversations just to get to a point where I can gracefully bow out without crushing anyone’s hopes and dreams.
Because I know what that feels like. And it sucks.
So I found myself right smack in the middle of one of those conversations today, where I realized I had inadvertently lead this person to believe there was a chance that we could be more than just friends. Enter the little voices in my head.
Good Kristie: “Awww, he’s such a nice guy. If you tell him you’re not interested, you’ll crush him.”
Bad Kristie: “If I have to endure his breath for a single moment longer, my olfactory senses will be permanently disabled.”
Good Kristie: “But he’s already made mental plans for the weekend… look, he keeps hinting…”
Bad Kristie: “Which means you better get out of here before he works up the courage to ask…”
Good Kristie: “Getting out for a day wouldn’t be so bad….”
Bad Kristie: “No, but being stuck with HIM for a day WOULD.”
This is just one of those situations where empathy and honesty cannot co-exist peacefully….