First Impressions

I have absolutely no clue how to read people. I used to think that I did; two failed marriages later, I realize that I never truly know someone. But occasionally, I find myself in situations where I have grossly underestimated someone. Sometimes it’s the depth of their deviousness, sometimes it’s the depth of their depravity. Sometimes I just think they’re one way when they’re actually nothing like that at all.

I struggled with this during my second divorce; in one particularly great therapy session, I asked my therapist, “How can I be so stupid? Why did I not SEE this?”

Her answer made perfect sense to me.

“You weren’t the only one who was fooled.”

So true. So when I get hit out of left field now, I ask those around me if they saw it… thankfully, they don’t see it coming either, which means I’m not stupid after all. I just have a gift for finding people who are great at the con.

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2 Responses to “First Impressions”

  1.   Edge Says:
    December 21st, 2007 at 7:40 am

    I realy thought I knew people as well. The older I get the more I see the value in getting to know people and, more importantly, refining what I will and won’t accept from people. I think what’s also important is knowing when I lie to myself. Constantly asking, “Is this really you, do you really believe this, if you do, would you act this way?”

    Now I’m feeling deep and in touch with my id so I need to make a joke to lighten things up.

    ~Jef

  2.   tiffany satin Says:
    December 21st, 2007 at 8:11 am

    Oh honey, you were never stupid! You were looking for what we all are and we so want to believe we that we find it.

    I got in a hurry to get my EX before some other girl got her claws into him. I should have taken my time and really gotten to know him before I married him. You see, someother girl got her claws in him anyway in the end. So rushing to get him didn’t do me any good at all.

    Everyone puts on a great show in the beginning, but they can’t keep it up over the long haul. Take your time and let him be him. Then you will know.

    No, you were never stupid. Don’t beat yourself up. After all who left who? Honey you’re great and I love the inspiration your words give me everyday.

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