What Goes On In A Man’s Mind?
I wish I had a translator. Because sometimes, I do not understand the things that they do. I honestly believe that they are just HARD-WIRED differently and women will never understand, because we just aren’t built the same way.
And to someone who is driven to understand the way things work, that can drive you crazy.
December 26th, 2007 at 4:05 pm
I’ll help you translate if you like.
December 27th, 2007 at 4:41 am
Honey, men really aren’t complex at all! That’s what makes them so difficult to understand until you stop and study them. We are colorful, multifunctional, diverse and complex in every way. We see the world in color with such variety and we live that way.
Men are black and white, have basic needs and respond to any woman who knows how to play on their needs. (Something that I am working hard to learn how to do.) Not understanding their simplicity causes us no end of grief because we try to deal with them like they are one of us. I have learned since my divorce, from a woman I use to hate, that men are very much like pets. Don’t get angry and hold things against them thinking they will read your mind and feel bad. They won’t. Don’t expect anything other than what you tell them, and remind them. be very clear in waht you want them to do. No hints or clues or mind reading. They just aren’t capable of those.
I have learned allot since the divorce and I get frustrated sometimes in dealing with men, but the whole pet theory is working extremely well for me know and I am finally living again with happy results. Men in my job, my neighborhood and my social life are actually responding as I want them to. I know it sounds crazy, but it works. men just aren’t anything like us and they weren’t obviously put here to be.
December 27th, 2007 at 7:00 am
do want the truth… nothing is going on.
December 27th, 2007 at 7:32 am
It’s really quite easy once you get the hang of it. It all translates to sex, competition and logic, and food. Most of the time it’s just sex.
So when you ask a guy how his day went, he’s really thinking, (competition) well I didn’t meet my goal of sex all the time, (logically) I need to meet my goal, (sex) let’s have sex. After that let’s eat.
~Jef
December 27th, 2007 at 7:33 am
I think the person who had the long reply is probably right.
Basically, men want to be admired and needed. You really should read, “His Needs, Her Needs,” by W.F. Harley. This pretty much de-mystifies men and women.
~Jef
December 27th, 2007 at 9:02 am
All you need to understand men is a single page pamphlet. To understand women you essentially need a manual as thick as ‘war and peace’ every 3 to 4 weeks.
Hope you had a good Christmas.
December 27th, 2007 at 9:09 am
Tiffany’s reply reminded me of a scene from the movie ‘PCU.’ The big party when the drunken frat boy asks the womanysts if they want a beer. One angrily yells at him and the other one speaks slowly and he gets her a beer. The angry woman then says “if you’re nice to them, they bring you things?”
December 28th, 2007 at 6:55 am
Men. Finally something I know something about. At least because I am a man. I am not sure about the PETS things Tiffany is talking about, but she is right about hints or clues. And yes, maybe she is right about men being simplier in some things. And Edge maybe right about SEX to some degree.
Men just look at life differently. That’s all. Pets? Wow Tiff.
December 29th, 2007 at 7:44 am
Great blog SG, your dad and I have been married 34 disfunctional years and still going strong. I guess you have to have a little insanity (in our case a lot of it) patience, and the willingness to try to understand each other, I agree with Tiffany and to truly “understand” someone you have to be willing to “research” like the other blogger who recommended the book To me before you can actually LOVE someone you have to understand them and there’s no “pill” for that, you have to do the research, and, God willing it will workout. You’ll have your ups and downs, passion (sex– I hear you saying eeeeewwwwwwwwMom–haha)
comes and goes, but if you get to the point where you understand the other person and YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT FROM THAT PERSON and they from you, you are on your way to a fabulous relationship. Had a great time at Christmas with you—Love ya Mom