Transparency
I have a gift. It’s the gift of understanding and acceptance; when I decide I like someone, I accept them for all that they are, good and bad. It’s almost as if I put blinders on and cease to see the bad things. One thing I never hear from a guy is that I didn’t accept them for the way they are.
But the gift is also a curse. I think most guys are so happy to find someone that accepts them the way that they are, that they don’t stop to think about the woman they’re committing to. So many times I’ve heard the words, “I love that you accept me for the way that I am.”
But they don’t realize there’s a lot more to love than that. If that’s the only reason you love me, then that’s a problem.
Granted, my ability to accept things is a big part of my personality, but it’s not the only part. The struggle I’ve found with dating is that I don’t feel like people are truly seeing the rest of me; my needs, my wants, my dreams, my desires…. and then it all falls apart when those things surface.
When you love someone just because they have the ability to love you…. well, that’s just not enough. I want more than that.
May 11th, 2008 at 3:56 am
Love is also being able to tell someone, “You have a bad habit I won’t tolerate.”
~Jef
May 11th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
you DESERVE better
May 11th, 2008 at 5:03 pm
Amen, Ms Vicki. I’ve been telling her that for months, but she won’t listen to me.
May 12th, 2008 at 10:31 am
Is it enough to love someone because they can love you *and* they put out?
Okay, seriously now…
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, especially in regards to what I want out of a relationship. The thing is, I want to be with someone who inspires me to be more than I am. Someone who wants to support me, unless I’m being too crazy, but doesn’t *need* me. Most of all, someone who is inspired by me as much as she inspires me. In the end, isn’t that what we all want when we finally grow up?