Train Wreck, Explained
B: I’ve met more women who have been the victims of philandering husbands than I care to count. These are, like yourself, the walking wounded, and frankly they’d NEVER break up a happy family. They’re the poster children for Burn the Bastard. However, what men do, and you know this so darned well, is to somewhere point out how their relationship is missing something, and they’re just not happy. That gap, that single chink (and I declare it’s not sometimes even conscious on the part of the female), is more of an aphrodisiac than, well anything I can think of. It’s the “My God, she understands me!”
Me: HA! DIRECT QUOTE FROM THE EX!!
B: I’d say that most of the time there’s no intention to wreck anything that one or both parties didn’t think was ruined anyway.
Me: Well there you go. You can convince yourself of anything if you’re selfish enough.
B: There are vixens out there who are looking for a better life. There are women who are miserable and are so tired of being alone, but let’s think about it, if we’re really looking at someone who’s a Good Man, and is unhappy, why wouldn’t we be sympathetic to his sad tale of woe.
Me: HA! DIRECT QUOTE FROM THE HOMEWRECKER!
B: And guys LOVE to play the knight in shining armor. Hey, I’m there. I recognize that in myself.
Me: You’re scary, B.
B: It’s called having compassion. And if the focus of the compassion happens to be nicely built, well there you go! And once that train starts, even with two very principled people, it’s darned hard to get it off the tracks before you’ve hit the bedroom, and that’s just a stop before the station at Divorceville.